How To Eliminate The Stress Of Overwhelm.
When you feel exhausted from stress, it usually shows in 1 of 3 ways:
1. Expression
2. Suppression
3. Depression
Expression is an easy one to identify (usually with yelling/hitting) but suppression and depression often fly under the radar. Suppression is holding something back that makes you want to "express" (think like a soda can that gets shaken up and is ready to blow) and depression is burying what you need to get off your chest deep inside (this costs energy for your self-care).
We all have external forms of stress like work, family, physical, environmental, money, relational, etc. But it's how you deal with stress internally that typically dictates your output.
And the way to measure if you are dealing with it healthy or not is by identifying if you are overwhelmed or not.
You might use exercise to deal with stress and can manage it in a healthy way. Or maybe you abuse it and get injured from your workouts.
Maybe you use food to reward yourself and can do so in an acceptable way. Or you go overboard easily because you can't stop consuming.
You may bury yourself in more work as a way to stay busy and not focus on the problem but how will you defeat the problem if you keep avoiding it?
What if your kids are going through something like this? How would you try to help them?
You'd probably commend them for all the good they have done in a loving way, right?
We should treat ourselves the same way.
You can still reflect on where you need to improve- that's one of the cornerstones of being disciplined- but you can do it encouragingly.
Instead of saying "I can't", say "How can I?"
One is the end of the sentence, the other leaves room for you to problem solve and find the solution.
And if you are overwhelmed, overcommitted, or overworked, this can seem challenging. That's why there is a 4th way to deal with stress- "Confess."
-Confess to your spouse the struggles you are experiencing.
-Confess to your coach that worries you have.
-Confess to God whatever you want (he can take it).
-Confess to your friends.
-Confess to yourself that you want a different outcome.
Be honest with yourself as that will open the door to where you need add oil to the lamp in your life.
P.S. Whenever you're ready, here are 3 ways I can help you set up healthier habits and break bad behaviors so you can lose weight around the waist and gain inches on the arms:
1. Work with me 1-on-1.
If you have some issues and you want my direct input and guidance, just reply to this "Hey Coach" and tell me what you're struggling with or by scheduling a Strategy Session with me below. It's that simple.
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We all need support. So why not jump into a motivated community of like-minded fathers to build CONSISTENCY with the habits that you want to instill to reach your goals, led by Yours Truly? This isn't for everyone- To qualify you must: 1. Be a Dad
2. Share with me what your goals are 3. Agree to be disciplined for the next 14 days
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I'll be there every day to give you everything you need to succeed - Meal plans, Tips, Motivation, Accountability, and Support. Iron sharpens Iron so as one man sharpens another (Proverbs 27:17). Let's stop trying to figure out and fix everything on our own- Let's win together.
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